A truck driver hauling a trailer-load of computers stops for a beer. As he approaches the bar, he sees a big sign on the door saying:



He goes in and sits down. The bartender comes over to him, sniffs, says he smells kind of nerdy, and asks him what he does for a living. The truck driver says he drives a truck, and the smell is just from the computers he is hauling.

The bartender says, “Okay, truck drivers are not nerds,” and serves him a beer.


As the truck driver is sipping his beer, a skinny guy walks in with tape around his glasses, a pocket protector with 12 kinds of pens and pencils, and a belt at least a foot too long. The bartender, without saying a word, pulls out a shotgun and blows the guy away. The truck driver asks him why he did that.


The bartender says, “Don’t worry, the nerds are overpopulating Silicon Valley, and are in season now. You don’t even need a license to do this.”


So the truck driver finishes his beer, gets back in his truck, and heads back onto the freeway. Suddenly he veers to avoid an accident, and the load shifts. The back door breaks open and computers spill out all over the freeway. He jumps out and sees a crowd already forming, grabbing up the computers. They are all engineers, accountants and programmers wearing the nerdiest clothes he has ever seen.


He can’t let them steal his whole load. So remembering what happened in the bar, he pulls out his gun and starts blasting away, felling several of them instantly. A highway patrol officer comes zooming up and jumps out of the car, screaming at him to stop.

The truck driver asks, “What’s wrong? I thought nerds were in season.”


“Well, sure,” said the patrolman, “But you can’t bait ’em.”

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When striving to achieve your goals, there is no such thing as trying


In order to recognize success, it helps to define failure. Failure is the refusal to establish a plan and work toward its accomplishment regardless of the obstacles.

Most of us were never taught that failure is a matter of choice; success too is a matter of choice. Failure is not, as many people believe, the result of lack of talent, money, time or other resources. Failure is simply the refusal to establish goals or objectives and then work toward their achievement. Talk to people who have neither goals nor motivation to succeed and you’ll find that their lives have no excitement, no purpose. They feel like failures.


To succeed, you will constantly find yourself sailing uncharted waters, doing things you have never done before but if you want any more from life than mediocrity, that’s where you’ll have to go. Any time you break new ground, you are taking a risk. You neither know exactly what’s ahead nor how you’re going to handle it. The only alternative is not to go anywhere.

When striving to achieve your goals, there is no such thing as trying. Even though we’ve been told as children, that it doesn’t matter if we win or not, just as long as we try hard. That is one of the greatest lies you can tell yourself or your children. “Trying” is a word meant to rationalize failure. It’s an excuse. In truth, when reaching for any objective, short term or long term, you either succeed or you don’t; there is no in-between. Trying, therefore, is a non-reality.

Lack of immediate success however, is not failure. It is nothing more than feedback you may need to modify your target date and even your plan for reaching your goal. “I tried” is a quitter’s statement. It says you have either given up or decided that not reaching your goals is an okay way to continue to live your life. Both attitudes are devastating to your personal effectiveness. Change your plan and get back into the race.

It’s not how many times you fall down that determines whether you will eventually reach the top of the mountain. It’s how many times you get up and get moving again.. Implanting the work “try” in your mind is an acknowledgement that it’s okay to give up instead of get up. Failure occurs only when you quit or make excuses for your inability to succeed


“I tried” is not an acceptable excuse. In fact, no excuses are necessary for success. Tried is an excuse for failure. Using the word “try” creates an illusion in your mind that your effort produced an “almost win” and stops you from moving on. Accept failure as an alternative and, consciously or unconsciously it will diminish your effectiveness and power to achieve your goals.

You never fail until you quit, make excuses or die. When you get feedback that you’re not making progress instead of quitting or making the excuse “I tried” ask yourself “What are my current alternatives?” “What is my next step?” Then choose the best alternative and keep moving. All life is choice and you can be stopped only if you choose to allow it to happen. “Trying” is nothing more than pinning a mental medal on your chest for having been delayed or stopped along the way to achieving your goals.


Cut your losses short and run your wins long. That means knowing when to regroup, change direction or even pull the plug when something isn’t working. When you’ve got that winning attitude, you build on it to achieve success, making the losses you encounter insignificant by comparison.

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“Nice Guy” / “Asshole” – Different Sides of the Same Coin

After reading through your “nice guy” section, I just want to thank you for finally summing up my feelings on the matter more cleverly and eloquently than I could.  In the past, I have had trouble pin-pointing what it was that bothered me about “Nice Guys.”  I guess that, at first, I was too busy being confused to become pissed off: whenever a NiceGuy would complain that he has trouble with romance because he’s too nice (and being in the middle of a nerdy social circle, I hear these complaints often), my typical thought would be something along the lines of: “huh; that’s weird; every girl who I’ve dated so far has liked me because I’m nice.  Conversely, none of the girls who have turned me down have done so because of my nicer traits; it’s not like they say, “Sorry, but you didn’t call me enough nasty names on our first date, and you forgot to slap the waitress’ ass!”


Given this, I’d have a hard time believing that being (genuinely) nice is the true cause of this person’s lack of romantic success, but I’d figure that perhaps they simply don’t have a clue what the real cause is (and some truly don’t, I guess).  However, then I read your rants, and it gave me a laugh and also helped me pinpoint another hypocrisy in the NiceGuy philosophy; namely, they see the world as being divided between 3 types of people: nice guys, assholes, and “women.”  As if being a “woman” is the only distinctive trait possessed by women, and it is up to the “nice males” and the “asshole males” to compete for this commodity known as “womankind.”  How can anyone hold such a mentality and still get confused when nobody sees them as being every woman’s dream?


Also, reading the comments that were sent in response to these rants has convinced me that these people aren’t just ignorant hypocrites; most of them KNOW that they’re really assholes themselves, and are just pissed off that their painstaking tactics are a waste of time. 


Basically, the impression that I got from these comments is that the interests of these NiceGuys are almost identical to those of their “asshole rivals,” and that they think of women the same way as well: basically, as potential “rewards” for all their hard work pretending to be a decent person.  Basically, the negative responses were divided between 4 types of people (though you’ve probably already made these observations):


  1. People who were oblivious to the fact that the rants weren’t about genuinely nice people.  It makes me wonder what is going on in a person’s head when their initial reaction to a rant such as yours is “why, she must hate nice people!”  I guess that these are the people who stopped reading in the middle of the title.


  1. People who whine that whenever they befriend a girl, she starts going out with some guy who “just wants to get laid,” and so then they “can’t even get laid!”  They should at least be aware of the irony here, but no; they’re not even aware of the hypocrisy.  As you basically said several times, you can tell the difference between a nice person and someone who is only pretending because the faker will complain about how they weren’t rewarded for all their “effort.” 


Honestly, how can anyone devote so much time and effort into hiding their intentions and feelings towards someone, and then be surprised when these intentions go unfulfilled?  For that matter, how can they think that it’s an injustice that their intentions go unfulfilled when they’re basically identical to those of the supposedly less-deserving “other guy”?  These are the people who convinced me that NiceGuys know that they are assholes (rather than just being ignorant), and have some nerve claiming not to be.


  1. Some fucked up people spouting weird shit about how women need to be protected/ nurturing/ told what their place is/ (insert patronizing, puritanical gender role here), and how “that damned feminist movement is ruining everything.”  These people need a news flash: as we gain more and more knowledge in the fields of psychology, anthropology, and biology, it seems that we find less and less cause to believe that gender roles are anything but socially constructed.  Neither sex is “inherently” anything, and it boggles my mind that people still try and cite some bogus gender role to back up their argument that women are inherently attracted to such-and-such, or that this-and-that are in their nature.  No they’re NOT.  Women, like men, are “inherently” in possession of their own fucking brains; it’s not like they all run off some computer program, and it’s not like they were put here as part of some “divine plan” where step 1 is that they have to be good mothers and obedient wives.


  1. People who think that women must be attracted to assholes because they got dumped once or twice.  Who hasn’t?  People like this need to stop seeing each individual as representing the whole of their sex.  When a woman dumps you, this is not a mass rejection by all women.  There is such thing as “individual circumstance,” which means that people get together, people break up, and the who/what/why is going to vary.  Maybe it just didn’t work out, and it will with another person.  Maybe not.  Maybe her reasons were valid, and it’s time for some self-examination.  In any case, a breakup or two doesn’t say jack shit about what “women,” as a whole, think.


Anyway, I’ve written too much, and since you’ve already said it all, it’s all the more useless for me to just re-iterate for so many paragraphs.  I just felt like ranting, and figured that I may as well send the rant to the person who inspired it.  Keep writing!

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